Top 6 Reasons Why Praying In Tongues Is So Important For Every Husband And Wife

Top 6 Reasons Why Praying In Tongues Is So Important For Every Husband And Wife
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It is however true that a lot of people still have doubt as to that which concerns praying in tongues. Many see it as a waste of time and useless. A couple that prays in tongues regularly would always be in charge of what happens in their relationship.

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There are certain evil forces that hate seeing people enjoying marriage. It is the will of the devil to put marriages apart and to make couples miserable. There are prayer points that you need to pray but, may not be able to pray in your normal language because of your limited knowledge of what is happening in the spirit realm. When you ask the Holy spirit to give you utterances to pray  for your marriage, you unconsciously roll away invisible barriers in your marriage or relationship. Those who pray in tongues pray twice.

Life is more spiritual than physical. The love we need in our relationships is spiritual. As a consequence, to be able to control your relationship, you need to know how to operate in the spirit. Praying in tongues is a way of gaining dominion over your love life.

Most relationships have failed because of the neglect of the place of prayer in the relationship. To have a successful marriage, we need to pray had for it to work. This doesn’t mean that you fold your hands and wait for God to come and perform your role as a husband or wife. You must play your role and ask God to bless your effort through prayers. Even Jesus being God never did anything in his life without praying. He started his ministry with prayer and ended with prayer. We need to start our marriage or relationship with pray and grow it with prayers.

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Sometimes we  behave funny to our partners without knowing exactly what caused us to misbehave that way. It is because of the operation of evil forces. Praying in tongues could be a wonderful solution to such problems.

The question is how do we begin speaking in tongues?

 I never forget the time I got born-again. I remember reading the salvation prayer at the back of a Kenneth Copeland daily devotional. Nearing the end of the prayer he said “ask God to fill you with His Spirit and begin speaking in an unknown tongue with syllables you received.” I looked kind of strange at the book. I didn’t know what tongues were and had no clue what to do with the syllables. I was just happy I was now saved.

Statistics have shown that prayer of other tongues are easily answered than praying in our own language. This doesn’t mean that when you pray in your language God doesn’t answer, but that the prayer in tongues covers a broader spectrum beyond human reasoning. The best prayer is to pray according to the will of God. To pray this kind of prayer, you must pray more in tongues. Only the spirit of God in you knows the will of God for you and what you need to pray about. Praying in tongues is so important because of the following reasons:

1.It helps you pray right and according to God’s will:

As a couple, it is the will of God  that you should be happy and bear fruits in your marriage. It is not the will of God for your husband or wife to cheat on you. It is not the will of God for you to be poor, maltreated, barren or to be treated as a stranger in your marital home. It is the will of God for you to be treated as a king or queen. Marriage is suppose to make you better and not worst. In Genesis 2:18 God said “ It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper” Marriage was created to improve our standard of life. Those who are happily married can testify that marriage is sweet.

 Let’s begin with Romans 8:26

“So too the [Holy] Spirit comes to our aid and bears us up in our weakness; for we do not know what prayer to offer nor how to offer it worthily as we ought, but the Spirit Himself goes to meet our supplication and pleads in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and groanings too deep for utterance.” Amplified Bible

So evidently you can see here from the above scripture that there is a way we ought to pray, or rather as the scripture says offer it worthily as we ought. So the Holy ghost guides us as we pray in tongues.

Now why do your prayers get answered every time when you pray in other tongues and your victories are not as near when you pray in a known language? Well, let’s see why from the Word.

(James 4:3) Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. King James Version

(James 4:3) You do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures. Amplified Bible

As you can see for yourself, you’re praying one way in a known language with little or no results at all and praying another way in other tongues with results every time. One of the weaknesses that the Holy Spirit assists us with is our motives in prayer. Remember when it said He comes to our aid because we know not how to offer our prayers?

To learn more on how to pray in tongues, watch this few minutes video for more inspiration.

How to pray in Tongues. 4 Keys

2. Praying in tongues helps your faith to grow:

Your faith is so important when it comes to relating with God. Hebrew 11:6 says “ But Without faith it is impossible to please him; for he that cometh to God must believe that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” As a consequence, faith growth is very important. With faith there is nothing you cannot do. Praying in tongues helps to boast your faith in God supernaturally. This is detailed in Jude 1:20,21 which says” But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life”. King James Version. Lets look at this verses in another version of the Bible;

(Jude 1: 20, 21) But you, dear friends, carefully build yourselves up in this most holy faith by praying in the Holy Spirit, staying right in the center of God’s love, keeping your arms open and outstretched, ready for the mercy of our Master, Jesus Christ. This is the unending life, the real life! The Message Bible

So then, when you’re praying in other tongues, the reason why you’re built up on your most holy FAITH is because you’re keeping yourself in the very Love of God. Or I can say it better this way you’re praying always from a place of Love

Because that’s the only way FAITH will work. It won’t work any other way even if you tried! As you’ve seen for yourself the reason your FAITH is being built up (when praying in other tongues) is because you’re praying from right in the center of God’s will – a place of Love.

3. By praying in tongues you pray out of love:

There is no prayer that cannot answer if it is not mix with love. Love is the platform for prayers to be answered. Faith and love work together to ensure positive results. That is why Galatians 5:6 says “ For in Jesus Christ neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision; but faith which worketh by love”. King James Version

And that’s the reason why your prayers in other tongues always get answered. Because you’re praying from a place of love and that’s the reason why your FAITH works because you’re no longer asking amiss as James put it, but you’re asking with the right motives! Let me put it this way, the reason you walk in Love is so that you can get your FAITH out there. Or one could say Love is what you use to launch your FAITH, without it, FAITH has nothing to launch from.

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Lady praying in tongues

4. It releases rivers of practical supply and life into your situations;

What is your need today? God has prepared rivers of practical supply to bring healing, life, and provision for all your challenges. As a new covenant believer, you have full access to these rivers of life through the Holy Spirit. When you pray in the Spirit, you release rivers of His wisdom, supply, and healing into your situations.

Are you hard pressed for a decision regarding your family, your job, your relationships, or your finances? Stir up the reservoir of divine wisdom that is dormant on the inside of you, and release rivers of wisdom to bring light and discernment into your situation.

I’ve found that the more I pray in the Spirit, the more my spirit becomes sensitive to His leading. Similarly, as you practice this gift, you’ll become more familiar with sensing the presence or absence of the Lord’s peace regarding a matter. And the more you learn to recognize and follow His leading of peace, the more you’ll be equipped to make the right decisions, find yourself at the right place at the right time, and experience His protection.

Now, apart from the river of wisdom, there are many other rivers of power that will impart life to your body or circumstances. There is a river of life for a sound mind, a river of love, another river of rest, yet another river of refreshing—all waiting to be released as you pray in the Spirit. Instead of feeling drained and dry of supply, let His living water flow freely as you consistently practice this powerful gift!

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5. It brings divine healing and health to your body and mind;

Praying in tongues is a powerful, scriptural way you can experience healing for both your mind and body. If you have been suffering from a painful physical condition, panic attacks, depression, or some other debilitating medical condition, let me show you how using God’s gift of tongues can bring about healing and wholeness to your body and mind.

Look at what the apostle Paul says in 1 Corinthians 14:4—He who speaks in a tongue edifies himself.

According to Thayer’s Greek Lexicon, the word edifies is translated from the Greek word oikodomeo, which means “to build a house, erect a building…to restore by building, to rebuild, repair.” Isn’t that interesting, considering that our physical bodies are the houses or temples of God’s Spirit (see 1 Cor. 6:19)? And doesn’t this tell us that as we pray in tongues, we can rebuild or repair our bodies broken down by age, stress, or disease?

You may have heard that when you pray in tongues you edify or charge up only your spirit or inner man. But 1 Corinthians 14:4 doesn’t say that only your inner man is edified. It says that the one who speaks in tongues edifies himself. Does himself include the person’s eyes, ears, nose, kidneys, liver, heart, brain, bones, joints, muscles, nervous system, and every other part of his body? Of course it does!

My dear, your entire self—spirit, soul, as well as body—gets edified or rebuilt as you pray in tongues. God takes care of the whole package. So don’t limit this restorative effect to just your inner man. Start believing that as you pray in tongues, your body is also getting rejuvenated and repair.

My dear, whether you have been discouraged by a bad medical report, a long-term health condition, or you are suffering from panic attacks and depression, give it all to the Lord and let His Spirit repair and restore your body and mind. God wants you whole in every way, both inside and out!

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6. It helps you overcome fears;

Does fear have a hold on your heart and mind? Perhaps you’re imprisoned by the fear of losing something, your husband or wife to someone, fear of not being able to have a child, of falling sick, or of dying. The Bible tells us clearly that fear “involves torment” (1 John 4:18), something that is not part of God’s will for His children.

How can the gift of tongues deliver us from the bondage of fear? Earlier, we read how praying in the Spirit keeps us in the love of God (see Jude 1:20–21). In talking about how fear involves torment, the apostle John tells us that only the perfect love of God can cast out fear (see 1 John 4:18). So one of the ways to keep ourselves in the love of God is to pray in the Spirit. And as you do, fear will be driven completely out of your life.

man and woman reading Bible
Man and woman reading Bible

Let me show you another scripture about how tongues can drive out fear. In 2 Timothy 1:6–7, Apostle Paul reminds Timothy:

Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
—2 Timothy 1:6–7

In the Greek, the word “gift” here is the word charisma which is grace gift, the same word describing how tongues is a gift of the Spirit (see 1 Cor. 12:4).

Now of all of the gifts of the Spirit, which gift can you stir up at will? I believe Paul is referring to the gift of tongues. Paul was reminding Timothy that stirring up the gift of tongues is key to living free of fear and experiencing power, love, and a sound mind—blessings that are also your inheritance in Christ.

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From the above analysis we can conclude that praying in tongues is one of the best and cheapest way of praying yourself out of marital and non marital problems. This prayer method gives you the ability to enjoy your inheritance in Christ Jesus. However, you cannot pray in tongues unless you have been baptized by the Holy spirit.

How to be baptized by the holy spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongues should be our next worry. If couples develop the habit of praying for their partners, marriage, children and finances in tongues, they would hardly be victims of on and off marital crisis like cheating, lack of affection, intimacy and many others. Why? The enemy of peace in marriage has been band not to trespass and your marriage or relationship has been declared “ touch not” in the spirit realm.

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I am a holistic mentor and instructor by calling with longer than a time of work understanding. I am hitched with three youngsters. I have confidence in the intensity of advising in settling conjugal difficulties. We develop by lifting others.

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