You can acquire knowledge by reading love articles or by experience. “If I know what love is, it is because of you” says Herman Hesse. That is the day you find true love, you begin to see love in different dimensions. There are things you would hardly understand about the power of love until you experience it yourself. In this post we are going to share with you some love tips that women can use to improve their love life.
Below are some love issues or ideas for ladies:
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- You should love your self first!
You cannot give out what you don’t have. For you to love someone, you must love or know how to love yourself. That is why Lucille Ball said “ Love yourself first and every think else falls into line . You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world”. We actually want him to love us so we can feel better about ourselves, but love tip number 1. Says that “it’s your accountability to like and respect yourself as a lady and as an individual earlier than you’ll be able to anticipate him to like you”. You need so much love and expecting a man to give you all of that love may simply be too heavy a burden for him. He may feel that you are expecting too much than he can offer and run or treat you badly.
Buddha once said “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” A greater proportion of your joy and happiness depends so much on the way you see and treat yourself. By allowing a man to determine your happiness is like giving a harmful toy to a child. No one can ever love you more than yourself.
This mentality would help you not to live your love life depending on others. There is no perfect human being anywhere and so don’t expect a man to love you 100% for you will be disappointed. The only person you can trust to love you 100% is God. Your man should be there to complement your love and not the main source of your love strength.
Many relationships have failed because the expectations of the lady to have 100% love from the man could not be met and as a consequence, she begins to think that the man doesn’t love her or is cheating on her, which is not true.
Love and relationship expert said “ If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” – Barbara De Angelis
For a relationship to last, you need not be passive but must be fully involved in seeing it work. To be tolerant to a man doesn’t mean you should lost your sense of rational thinking. The fact that you stand firm and refuse your man from taking certain decisions in life doesn’t mean that you don’t love him. Instead when you love somebody you instead become more careful to see that he doesn’t run into trouble. Why? Because his trouble is your trouble as well. Men love women that can direct and shape their life in a better way, not the one that accepts every little thing that the man says just because she doesn’t want to run into argument with the man. Irrelevant argument is bad but constructive argument is most highly welcome in relationships. Eleanor Roosevelt said “ It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receiving nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death”. Your emotion, fear of pain and affection for your man shouldn’t be the reason why you cannot be a rational thinker. Relationship success requires wisdom and knowledge.
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3.What he says is not what he does
It is not good to be deceitful in a relationship. If a man confesses love for you and his action speaks the opposite then know that the love is fake. “ Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do” says David Wilkerson.
What he is confessing is not what is in the heart. True love that comes from the heart must be matched with action. Acting love and not confessing it is better than confessing and not acting it. Why? Because action speaks louder than words. Any man who says he loves you but bodily abuses you does not love you. According to a love expert by name Alfred Lord Tenyson, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”
However, for a man to manifest his love for you, you need to be loveable. That is why Benjamin Franklin said “ If you would be loved, love, and be loveable”.
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4.Manage your emotion.
Women are naturally more emotional than men. They are easily carried away by emotions. However, you can learn to manage your dangling emotional feelings. The excess emotional feeling women possess sometimes affect their ability to stand strong in the face of trouble and challenges in their relationship. When a woman is in love she finds it difficult to control her feelings. That aspect of love is not unjustified. Research have shown that “ A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” Says Jane Austen
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5. Learn to be patient
True love is kind and patient. “Love is the flower that; you’ve got to let it grow” says John Lennon. It is never advisable to hurry over a relationship. You cannot have nine children in a month by getting nine women pregnant at the same time. You need to wait for nine months for a child to be born. There is need for patience in relationships. According to Thich Nhat Hanh, “patience is the mark of true love. If you truly love someone, you will be more patient with that person.” We must develop the habit of nurturing your relationship to grow with time.
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6. He can not make up for deficiencies in your life.
Asking a man to make up for what isn’t working in your life is simply too heavy a burden to put on him.You don’t love someone because you need material or financial support. Such things can come later, but shouldn’t be a condition for you to love a man. ”Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage” says Lao Tzu. There is absolutely nothing love cannot do.
7. He can not learn your thoughts regardless of how much he loves you.
Communication is very important in a relationship. Men are not magicians that a woman should be expecting to read her thoughts and expectation of him. You cannot expect a man to know your needs at all times if you don’t tell him. There are a few things he can know but not at all times. Learn to communicate your emotional and other needs to your man. Let him know what can make you happy in a polite way. However, it is advisable not to put him under pressure. What you need most is love. “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life; That word is love” says Sophocles. You don’t love someone because you need something from him. According to Erich Fromm “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you’. Matured love says ‘I need you because I love you.”
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