Does the Bible actually condemns pre-marital sex? Does sex before marriage have any negative impact on our relationship and marriage or life in particular? In this article we shall look at those scriptures that stand against sex before marriage and its negative impact.
A lot of people may have heard that sex before marriage is a sin but have never found scriptural proves to support their ideas or hard sufficient time to research about it. The Bible is a solution centre to all our problems. Every question you have that may be disturbing you has an answer in the Bible.
As concerns pre-marital sex, the following scriptures would inspire you and help you to understand if sex before marriage is a sin or not. Knowing the truth about your life is better than living in ignorance. John 8:32 says “ You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”
1. 1 Corinthians 7:2
“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.”
In this portion Apostle Paul makes us to understand that any sexual activity outside of marriage is “sexual immorality”. He said for us not to be guilty of sexual immorality let every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband. Reason? So that they should not be tempted to be victims of sexual immorality. Meaning that sex before marriage is sin.
2. Hebrews 13:4
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
What do we mean by an undefiled marriage bed? This implies that the marriage union should be void of immoral behavior be it before or after marriage. That is husband or wife should not have any sex outside of marriage. If any partner is not sexually satisfied, it is better for the more experience to teach the less experience so that they can grow together satisfying each other’s emotional needs than running after the wind. Every man and woman if heavily loaded with unexploited talent in all sphere of live. If we are patient with our partners and expose them to education about marriage and relationships, we would discover that we have been underestimating them.
3. Acts 15:19-20
“Therefore my judgment is that we should not trouble those of the Gentiles who turn to God, but should write to them to abstain from the things polluted by idols, and from sexual immorality….”
After the Jerusalem council met, the earliest group of Christians decided that Gentiles (meaning anyone who was not a Jew) could be Christians, but that they should refrain from sexual immorality, among other sins. In the wider biblical context, as we noted earlier, sexual immorality includes sex before marriage.
4. 1 Corinthians 5:1
“It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father’s wife.” For more information see Ephesians 5:3
This is a more explicit example. A man was sleeping with his stepmom or mother-in-law outside of marriage. Paul is very clear that this is a grievous sin, one that not even non-Christians in the city of Corinth were guilty of doing! So God is really against sexual immorality.
5. Galatians 5:19-21
“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” For more information see Colossians 3:5
In this passage we see that beside other sins, the sexual sins that Paul mentioned are, “sexual immorality,” “impurity,” “sensuality,” and even “orgies.” It would be very difficult to argue that Paul gives approval of sex outside of marriage, given these strong words against sexual intercourse of various types and kinds. If elsewhere, Paul gives permission of sex between a married man and woman, then all other forms of sex are sinful.
6. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God….”
Here, Paul contrasts a believer’s self-control over his own body with living out of control, burning in passionate lust. The former is living a life that is pleasing to God and is holy, while the other is living a life that clearly does not know God. In which group do you think a hook-up culture that uses apps like Tinder is? Is sleeping with someone you met a few minutes ago demonstrating control over one’s body? We don’t think so. With God everything is possible. What we need is to submit to God and allow is grace to see us through our challenges.
7. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9
“To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
Paul clearly spells out that for unmarried, single people, God demands that they abstain from sex.. But, if they are unable to abstain, then they should better get married instead burning with passion. This is enough proof that sin in marriage is not a sin but sin out of marriage is a sin.
8. Genesis 2:24-25
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”
From the very beginning, God’s design for sex has been between a man and a woman in the context of marriage. This is not held out as the ideal, but this is supposed to be the norm for all sexual intercourse according to the Bible.
9. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
A Christian is not suppose to have sexual intercourse with any body before marriage because their body belong not to themselves but to God the creator. We have been given the great gift of God the Holy Spirit that dwells in us so when we submit to sexual immorality we sin against our own body and God at the same time. God bought us for a price by sacrificing his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him may have eternal life.
Generally almost everyone in the world have the conception that you can have sex when ever you want and with any body of your choice irrespective of whether married or not. Some have been victims of sexual abuse. That not withstanding, it is not late to rewrite our story.
God is a merciful God and willing to forgive us of our mistakes. His hands are open to receive us. Isaiah 1:18 says “Come now, and lets reason together, said the lord; though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool”. So it is not the will of God for us to perish in our wrong doings.
There is no one that can boast that has no record of wrongs. If you are guilty of sex before marriage or adultery simple confess your sins and tell God You are sorry. The Lord will forgive you and wipe away your name from the book of death and write it in the book of life.
For those with burning passion for pre-marital sex, please employ patients. Ask God for grace to go through as I know it is not easy, but with God everything is possible. When your ordained life partner will finally arrive, you would have an open visa to have enough of it as much as you want anywhere and any time. As long as it will please both of you. No limitation of any kind. You would also be permitted to organize catch up where necessary.
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